Barbara Hotelling has been a birth doula and childbirth educator since 1982. She later became a birth doula trainer and Lamaze educator trainer and has worked with pregnant and parenting teens. Recently she has studied When Survivors Give Birth and is certified to teach the program. She studies birth psychology with the Association for Pre and Perinatal Psychology. As a lifelong learner, I have acquired information to help families understand how to relate to each other. I started with Lamaze Childbirth education, and then became a DONA birth doula. When I arrived at APPPAH, I learned the missing links to fetal and childhood abuse and neglect. I have a deeper understanding of my childhood and I present this information to student nurses at Duke and to groups wanting to understand as well.